40th Wedding Anniversary

Check my guide to celebrating 40 years together with gifts and celebration ideas that honor a lifetime of love and commitment. It’s time to make your ruby anniversary truly unforgettable.

Author: Justin AldridgePage Updated: 19 March 2024

Discover The 40th Year Wedding Anniversary

Forty years. It’s not just a number on a cake; it’s a whispered conversation between two souls who’ve seen sunrises and storms together. On this anniversary, celebrate the unvarnished, extraordinary journey you’ve built hand-in-hand. This milestone shimmers with the fiery passion of a ruby and the quiet strength of a shared journey. I’m sharing some inspirational ideas to make your ruby wedding anniversary special.

Traditional Gift

The ruby is a classic gem that’s as enduring and radiant as your love. You’ve been in love for 40 years, and that love has lit up your lives, filling every day with joy, intensity, and comfort. Just like the deep, glowing color of a ruby, your relationship has only grown stronger and more lively with each passing year. This traditional gift symbolizes the energy and eternal flame that burns within your marriage.

A ruby stands for unbreakable bonds and deep-seated emotions that stand the test of time. Let this gift remind you of the enduring passion and devotion you have for each other. Your love is valuable like the most gleaming ruby. So, treasure this gemstone in the same way you treasure every moment you’ve spent together in these remarkable four decades.

We are better together - Sea Glass love birds framed gift


“We are better together”

A wonderful handmade framed unique design of a couple of love birds, including a sweet quote. The quote can be personalized for you. The sea glass and pebbles are collected by the artist from the beautiful Mediterranean beaches in Southern Spain.

This makes a lovely unique anniversary or special occasion gift.

Traditional Gemstone

Traditional 40th year anniversary gemstone is the ruby

The ruby, with its bright, fiery shine, is the perfect gemstone for a 40th wedding anniversary. It’s like a shining light that represents the love and passion in a relationship that’s lasted four decades and seen many of life’s ups and downs.

The deep red color of the ruby shows the warmth and passion of a lasting love. This gemstone tells a story of strength, energy, and a strong bond between two people who have walked through life side by side.

Traditional Flower

Traditional 40th wedding anniversary flower is the gladiolus

As the day ends with the sun casting a warm light, the gladiolus stands tall. This impressive flower is a symbol of long-lasting love and strength, capturing the spirit of a 40th wedding anniversary. Its towering stems and bright colors represent the strength and adaptability you develop as a couple over four decades together.

The gladiolus is like a soldier in the war of love as it stands tall and dignified. Its sword-like petals are symbols of bravery and honesty. They remind you of the strong bond that comes from commitment, loyalty, and unwavering dedication, no matter what challenges or victories come your way.

But the gladiolus doesn’t just symbolize strength. It’s also a sign of the deep passion and warmth that keep the spark of love alive even after forty years. Its various colors – from bright red and orange to gentle pink and purple – reflect the range of emotions you experience in your marriage.

Modern Gift

For a 40th year anniversary, a ruby is a great modern gift. It celebrates 40 years of being together with its beautiful red color. A piece of ruby jewelry shows affection and admiration. It’s like a collection of precious memories, fun times, and shared goals.

This stunning gem symbolizes the strength and resilience of a relationship that’s lasted 40 years. Its bright sparkle reflects the love that keeps shining, guiding the couple forward.

How Long You´ve Been Married

40 years / 480 months / 2,087 weeks / 14,610 days / 350,640 hours / 21,038,400 minutes (more or less)

Fun Fact

If you lived on Neptune, you would have been married for 0.24 years and if you lived on Mercury 166.1 years…get your head around those figures!

Gift Ideas for your Husband

Forty years together, and your husband still gives you butterflies! Let’s track down a gift that will make him feel just as giddy.

  • Red leather smart wallet – personalized with his initials for security and style
  • New smartwatch – to keep track of fitness and access helpful apps
  • Whiskey decanter set – customize his home bar with engraved glasses
  • Golf lessons – to improve his handicap and game skills
  • Monogrammed silver hip flask – a chic way to carry his favorite drink
  • Cozy fleece-lined slippers – for warmth and comfort at home
  • Fun t-shirt or hat – use this print: “Still Rockin & Rollin After 40yrs Together”

Try this special wish:

My love,

Forty years and countless memories later, I’m still so grateful to call you my husband. Through every up and down, you’ve been my rock. Your hand to guide, your love to lift me.

Laughter, dreams, a lifetime of joy – thank you for sharing it all. I can’t wait for the next forty years by your side.

Happy anniversary, my darling! All my love, XXX

Gift Ideas for your Wife

From timeless classics to contemporary delights, these gifts are sure to make her milestone celebration a standout memory.

  • Customized ruby jewelry – with her initials or a special message
  • Designer handbag – surprise her with the one she’s always wanted
  • Pressed Gladiolus or Nasturtium pendant – a keepsake of your love
  • Where it all began map art – commemorate the start of your journey
  • Luxe spa day – offer her a day of pampering and relaxation
  • Personalized photo album – compile memorable photos from 40 years
  • Lighthearted trophy – award her a playful “40th Anniversary Medal”

Try this special wish:

My darling,

Forty years together and I’m still the luckiest man. Your love has lifted me up through all of life’s joy and hardship.

I admire the caring, thoughtful, strong woman you are. Thank you for choosing me – I’m eternally grateful.

No matter how long we’re married, I’ll keep choosing you every day. Happy anniversary, my love!

Always yours, XXX

Gift Ideas for the Couple

With these thoughtful and meaningful gifts, you can show your friends or family members just how much their love and commitment mean to you on this momentous occasion.

  • 40th ruby anniversary plate – show heartfelt wishes from loved ones
  • Ruby anniversary celebration clock – to mark their journey in time
  • 40th Ruby anniversary family tree picture frame – highlight their growing legacy
  • Personalized “Welcome” plaque – honor their union with the family name and date
  • Meal at their favorite restaurant – for a night of culinary delight
  • Photo collage jigsaw puzzle – to relive the joyous moments together

Fun Fact

Since you’ve been married:
Combined, the two of you have spent about 29.3 years sleeping
 You two have had about 146,100 dreams
The two of you have spent around 46.8 months eating and drinking
The two of you have eaten about 79.9 tons of food
Between the two of you, you two have laughed around 292,200 times

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Fun ways to Celebrate

Fun ways to celebrate your 40th ruby wedding anniversary

At home idea:

Celebrate your 40th ruby wedding anniversary at home and make it a night to remember. Have the kids help out to bring some energy and creativity to the decor. You can use fairy lights, nice fabrics, and ruby-red touches to make your backyard or living area look festive.

Invite a local band to play some tunes so everyone can dance the night away. A professional chef can cook up some fancy dishes for everyone to enjoy. Add some fun with a photo booth and a trivia game to keep the party lively.

As the night goes on, listen to heartfelt speeches from friends and family. It adds a special touch. Also, raise a toast to forty years of shared love, laughter, and unforgettable moments.

On a budget idea:

Consider taking your partner out for a night of dancing. Check out community centers or dance studios for budget-friendly or free dance classes. They offer everything from the elegant waltz to fun square dancing.

During warmer months, many places host free outdoor dance events. It’s a great chance to dance under the stars. Just pack a picnic, bring a blanket, and find a cozy spot in a park or an outdoor venue for an evening filled with dance and romance.

You can also look for dance nights at clubs or social halls that don’t cost much. These events often have live music or DJs playing all sorts of dance music, so you can dance the night away without spending a lot on tickets or cover charges.

An adventurous idea:

Enjoy a hot air balloon ride for this years anniversary

Here’s a unique way to celebrate 40 remarkable years of marriage – take to the skies in a hot air balloon. A celebration as grand as this deserves an equally grand gesture.

Drift peacefully with your partner, hand in hand, high above the ground. The panoramic views will give you the perfect backdrop to reflect on the beautiful journey you’ve embarked on together.

As you float along, take time to recall your most cherished moments from the past 40 years. Think back to your first balloon ride as a couple. What a thrill it was!

Now, raise a glass of champagne and enjoy a gourmet lunch while suspended in the clouds. There’s no comparison to dining in a crowded restaurant when you can have the world beneath your feet. You’ll feel just as elated as on your wedding day.

This romantic ruby anniversary escape will allow you to focus on each other, appreciate how far you’ve come, and get excited for the adventures still ahead.

A luxury idea:

Unwind together in a cozy villa or cabin tucked away in lush greenery or perched on a cliff with a view of sparkling waters. Spend your days soaking up the sun by your private infinity pool. You can sip on cocktails delivered right to your cabana by friendly staff. Take time to relax together, enjoying soothing couples’ spa treatments like massages, facials, and body scrubs that will leave you both feeling refreshed.

When evening comes, look forward to mouthwatering meals cooked by a personal chef. They’ll whip up dishes tailored to your preferences, using the best local ingredients. Whether you fancy a romantic candlelit dinner on your terrace or a beachfront barbecue under the stars, each meal is going to be an absolute treat.

Fun Fact

In addition to being the traditional 40th and 15th anniversary gemstone gift, the ruby is also July’s Birthstone.

Common Questions about the 40th Wedding Anniversary

Q: What is the 40th wedding anniversary called?

A: The 40th wedding anniversary is called the ruby anniversary.

Q: What is the 40th wedding anniversary gemstone called?

A: The 40th wedding anniversary gemstone is called the ruby.

Q: What is the 40th wedding anniversary symbol?

A: The 40th wedding anniversary symbol is the ruby.

Q: What is the 40th wedding anniversary color?

A: The 40th wedding anniversary color is ruby red.

Q: What are the traditional and modern gifts for a 40th wedding anniversary?

A: The traditional and modern gift for a 40th wedding anniversary is the ruby.

Q: What is the 40th year anniversary flower?

A: The 40th wedding anniversary flower is the gladiola.

Did You Know?

The Estrela de FURA, a 55.22 carat ruby, was sold for $34.8 million (€31.9 million) in June 2023.

The only difference between a ruby and a sapphire is the color!

Warriors have worn rubies into battle for their properties of protection, courage, and strength. Carrying rubies into battle is believed to lead to victory. In the “Wizard of Oz,” ruby slippers protected Dorothy from evil forces.

A ruby amulet, pendant, or charm is believed to bestow harmony, success, emotional balance, and contentment to its wearer.

Traditional and Modern Gifts Around The World

Traditional Gift – UKUKRuby
Traditional Gift – USUSARuby
Traditional Gift – AustraliaAustraliaRuby
Traditional Gift – CanadaCanadaRuby
Traditional Gift – SpainSpainRuby
Traditional Gift – GermanyGermanyRuby
Traditional Gift – FranceFranceEmerald
Traditional Gift – ItalyItalyRuby
Flower GiftAnniversary Flower GiftsGladiolus
Gemstone GiftGemstone anniversary giftsRuby
Modern GiftModern Anniversary GiftsRuby

Lighthearted Wishes

Forty years of marriage is no joke – it’s a ruby gem worth celebrating! For four decades this couple has stuck together through thick and thin. From mullets and mom jeans to minivans and mortgages, their love has remained rock solid.

Here’s to 40 more years of laughter, love, and saying “what?” to each other’s mumbling.

Forty years down, forever to go! Wishing you countless more anniversaries where the only “old” is the gold.

Through disco, big hair, leg warmers, and beyond – your love stands the test of time. Happy 40th!

Sending you both heaps of love and laughter on your ruby anniversary! May your love be as strong as ever and your jokes as cheesy as your wedding cake.

Congratulations on forty years of adventures, memories, and love that sparkles brighter than any gem! May your anniversary be as special as the two of you are to us.

Wishing you an anniversary filled with more unforgettable moments than there are stars in the sky. May your love shine just as brightly!

Here’s to honoring an incredible milestone of lifelong love and partnership. Cheers to the happy couple on four decades of marriage and counting!

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About The Author

Justin is passionate about helping couples to make their anniversary as special as possible. Justin enjoys being creative and coming up with different and inspiring ideas for couples to celebrate their anniversary in style each year.