21st Wedding Anniversary

Spice up your 21st anniversary! Ditch the expected, embrace the extraordinary. Here´s my guide with some more fun gift and celebration ideas.

Author: Justin AldridgePage Updated: 28 May 2024

Discover The 21st Year Wedding Anniversary

Happy 21st wedding anniversary! You have made lots of happy memories and built a strong foundation with your promises to each other. You’ve faced challenges, celebrated victories, and through it all, your bond has only strengthened. So, let’s explore some gift ideas that can make this celebration even more special.

Traditional Gift

Celebrating 21 years together is an important milestone, even though there’s no traditional gift for this anniversary. But that doesn’t mean it lacks symbolism. 

Have you heard of the iolite gemstone? It’s got this rich, deep blue shade that perfectly reflects the depth of your journey so far. Then there’s the majestic iris flower, which symbolizes wisdom – something you’ve definitely gained over these years. Moving onto modern times, the 21st anniversary is marked by shiny brass and gleaming nickel. 

Having said that, the best part isn’t a gemstone, a flower, or a piece of metal. It’s the memories you’ve made, the strength of your bond, and the love you share. So here’s to growing like an iris into the next 21 years! No matter where life takes you, always remember – you’ve got the best gift of all – each other.


A lovely and fun handmade framed picture toasting to a wonderful ‘X’ years together, all made with genuine sea glass. The sea glass is collected by the artist from the beautiful Mediterranean beaches in Southern Spain and the message can be pesonalized

This makes for a lovely and unique anniversary or special occasoin gift to give to your loved one.

Traditional Gemstone

Traditional 21st year anniversary gemstone is the Iolite

The iolite gemstone traditionally marks your 21st anniversary. It’s a symbol of insight and true love, with a stunning indigo color that’s both clear and mysterious. 

Its name comes from the Greek word “ios,” meaning violet, hinting at its deep blue-purple tones that have fascinated jewelry lovers for centuries. One cool thing about this stone is that its colors seem to shift when viewed from different angles. It’s kind of like how you see new aspects in your partner as your relationship evolves over time.

In the past, people believed iolite was a special stone that helped spiritual leaders. Today, it is often given as a gift for couples celebrating their 21st wedding anniversary to symbolize their strong and lasting love. 

Whether it’s set in earrings, necklaces, or other jewelry, the iolite’s blue-violet hues show how connections can become stronger and more intricate over the years.

Traditional Flower

Traditional 21st wedding anniversary flower is the iris

There’s a special flower for your 21st wedding anniversary. It’s the gorgeous Iris. This beauty, with its striking purple color, represents wisdom and treasured friendships.

In Greek mythology, Iris was the goddess of the rainbow and a heavenly messenger. As the flower of the 21st anniversary, the iris carries a lot of meaning, too. Its petals open up like the pages of a book, revealing new chapters. It honors relationships that continue to grow and evolve, even after many years together.

Plus, this stunning bloom can survive cold winters and pop back up again in the spring. It’s a lot like going through ups and downs in a marriage. You weather the storms together and come out stronger on the other side.

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Modern Gift

The 21st anniversary metals, brass and nickel, have a special meaning. Brass has a warm, golden glow that captures the essence of the initial spark between partners. Similarly, nickel brings in a sleek, silvery shine, representing the cool and unexpected moments in your relationship. 

Brass and nickel together make a perfect combo, just like a great marriage. Brass reflects the deep, solid foundation you’ve built over the years – the warmth and strength that comes with time. On the other hand, nickel shows love can still sparkle and catch you off guard.

Like you and your partner, brass and nickel are also adaptable. They depict the easy evolution of a strong couple, gracefully moving through the memories of 21 years.

How Long You´ve Been Married

21 years / 252 months / 1,096 weeks / 7,670 days / 184,080 hours / 11,044,800 minutes (more or less)

Fun Fact

If you lived on Mars, you would have been married for 11.17 years and if you lived on Mercury 87.2 years…get your head around those figures!

Gift Ideas for your Husband

Celebrate your love and the life you’ve built together with these thoughtful and fun gift ideas for your special guy.

  • Smartwatch – track his workouts and monitor health
  • Engraved brass compass and leather case – to guide him on expeditions
  • Personalized brass bottle opener – the coolest way to uncork
  • Merchandise from his favorite sports team – a shirt or hat he’ll love
  • Personalized nickel guitar pick – with a romantic lyric quote that melts his heart
  • Funny brass bar sign – show off your sense of humor
Cup cakes anniversary sea glasss frame


A wonderful framed unique design of a pair of cup cakes with a message that you can personalize, all made with genuine sea glass. The sea glass and is collected by the artist from the beautiful Mediterranean beaches in Southern Spain.

This makes for a lovely and unique anniversary or special occasion gift to give to your loved one.

Try this special wish:

Dear Love,

Twenty-one years of adventure already–can you believe how swiftly the joyful memories stack up? We are still that vibrant pair with stars in our eyes, no matter where this journey leads us next. Here’s to building castles of sweet moments together for 21 years more!
Yours faithfully, XXX

Gift Ideas for your Wife

Show your wife just how much you love and appreciate her with a considerate gift. Check out these suggestions:

  • Iolite and silver bracelet – adorn her wrist with a delicate piece
  • Iolite and gold necklace with earrings – an elegant set she can wear on occasions
  • Digital picture frame – relive your love story with wedding photos
  • Brass table lamp with phone charger – for her bedside table
  • Brass plant mister – show you care for her plants
  • Witty wine glass and coffee stand – use this label: “funny how women tell time”
sea glass love birds


A wonderful handmade artwork displaying two birds in love and a heart shaped balloon, all handmade with sea glass and pebbles. The sea glass and pebbles are collected by the artists from the beautiful Mediterranean beaches in Southern Spain. Personalized for you.

The perfect frame for an Anniversary or wedding gift.

Try this special wish:

My Dearest,

Our stars still sparkle after twenty-one enlightening years! With your hand in mine, each moment sweeps me off my feet as in our first waltz. Here’s to building more castles of joyful memories for twenty-one more! Happy Anniversary to my eternal dance partner and lover!

Yours always, XXX

Gift Ideas for the Couple

Can you believe this couple has been together for 21 years? Whether you’ve been a part of their journey or just recently became friends, honor their special occasion with thoughtful gifts, big or small.

Sea Glass Dinner Date Art


A wonderful framed unique design of a romantic dinner date, all made with genuine sea glass. The sea glass is collected by the artist from the beautiful Mediterranean beaches in Southern Spain.

This makes for a lovely and unique anniversary or special occasion gift to give to your loved one.

  • Brass bookend set – keep their favorite books organized
  • Brass candle sticks – elegant decor for romantic evenings
  • Personalized brass photo frame – capture and cherish their special moments
  • Gourmet chocolates – who doesn’t love a sweet treat?
  • Brass sculpture – to enhance their space with an artistic centerpiece
  • Moscow mule mugs – for their cocktail nights

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Fun Fact

Irises are named after Iris, the goddess of the rainbow in ancient Greek mythology.

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Fun ways to Celebrate

Fun ways to celebrate a 21st wedding anniversary

At home idea:

Coming up on 21 fantastic years together? No need to empty the bank account for this milestone. Instead, get creative and make homemade “awards” for each other, honoring your funniest, most romantic, and timeless moments.  You can also print a game with 21 questions to play while eating food from the restaurant where you had your first date. As the evening winds down, pop open that wedding champagne you’ve been saving all these years and raise a glass to the past 21 beautiful years.

On a budget idea:

If you’re on a budget, consider surprising your partner with a personalized scrapbook filled with 21 sentimental moments. Cozy up with piping hot cider as you take turns flipping through the pages. As the night continues, put on your wedding dance songs and try to recreate that iconic first spin around the kitchen. And when it’s time for dinner, bring out the fine china. Prepare a delightful four-course meal and make it a date night right at home.

An adventurous idea:

Returning to those special landmarks for anniversary celebration

Let’s go on a journey back in time on this big day. Take some nostalgic selfies at those landmarks that captured your heart on your honeymoon. Or, you can work together to train for a 5K race. If you want something different, you both can pretend to be runaway newlyweds and explore a place you’ve never been before!

A luxury idea:

A luxurious idea for a grand celebration after 21 years of marriage is to book a lavish resort with chilled champagne, a bed adorned with rose petals, and plush spa robes. Relax together with a special 50-minute massage just for couples. Special oils will make it even more calming, and the lighting will help set the mood.

After your day of pampering, take a luxurious bubble bath with rose petals and sip on some Anniversary Cuvee. Enjoy the warm glow of the sunset on your private balcony and capture intimate photos together under twinkling lights. 

As the sun sets, put on your formal clothes to celebrate 21 years of love with a candlelit dinner. To top it off, create memories dancing cheek-to-cheek to a playlist filled with songs from your relationship’s timeline.

Fun Fact

Iris is a diverse genus consisting of over 300 species of beautiful and vibrant flowering plants.

Common Questions about the 21st Wedding Anniversary

Q: What is the 21st wedding anniversary called?

A: The 21st wedding anniversary is called the brass and nickel anniversary

Q: What is the 21st wedding anniversary gemstone called?

A: The 21st wedding anniversary gemstone is Iolite

Q: What is the 21st wedding anniversary symbol?

A: The 21st wedding anniversary is not symbolised by brass and nickel

Q: What is the 21st wedding anniversary color?

A: The 21st wedding anniversary color is orange

Q: What are the traditional and modern gifts for a 21st wedding anniversary?

A: There is no traditional gift for the 21st wedding anniversary, however the modern gift is brass and nickel.

Q: What is the 21st year anniversary flower?

A: The classic flower for 21st wedding anniversary celebrations is the Iris, they can represent faith, hope, courage, wisdom and admiration.

Did You Know?

Viking explorers like Leif Eriksson is said to have carried a piece of iolite with them to help navigate the open seas of the Atlantic Ocean and beyond. In overcast days, they used it to locate the sun and map their location.

Iris can produce white, yellow, orange, pink, purple, lavender, blue or brown colored flowers.

Iolite is pleochroic, meaning it changes color (blue to violet or yellow to clear) when rotated or seen from different angles.

Traditional and Modern Gifts Around The World

Traditional Gift – UK UKNo Traditional Gift
Traditional Gift – US USANo Traditional Gift
Traditional Gift – AustraliaAustraliaNo Traditional Gift
Traditional Gift – CanadaCanadaNo Traditional Gift
Traditional Gift – Spain SpainOak
Traditional Gift – Germany GermanyOpal
Traditional Gift – France FranceOpal
Traditional Gift – Italy ItalyOak
Flower Gift Anniversary Flower GiftsIris
Gemstone Gift Gemstone anniversary giftsIolite
Modern Gift Modern Anniversary GiftsBrass and Nickel

Lighthearted Wishes

We’ve all been blessed to witness this couple’s enduring love story unfold over the past 21 years. As they mark over two decades of marital adventures, here are some playful messages we can pass along to keep the celebrations fun and joyful!

Wishing you 21 more years of laughing at each other’s bad jokes and keeping the romance alive!

Congrats to the most fun, loving couple we know – may you forever young at heart no matter how old you get!

Here’s to 21 years down and a lifetime more of cute nicknames, spirited adventures, and that one-of-a-kind spark!

Cheers to the couple who keeps the dance floor hot well past midnight – keep making every party epic together for 21 years to come!

No matter what crazy escapades the next years bring, may your smiles, banter and bear hugs endure just like the first 21 years!

May the laughter ringing out from backyard dinner dates and impromptu kitchen waltzes never fade. Congrats again, lovebirds – your spark sets the bar sky-high for all romance that follows!

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About The Author

Hi! I’m Justin and I’m the typical sort of person that tends to leave things at little too late…especially when it comes to celebrating my anniversary. I started this website to help couples plan and celebrate their special occasions together. I don’t profess to know it all…but you can at least learn from my mitakes 😉 Read more about me here…

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